Let’s talk about something that’s seriously misunderstood: being nice versus being kind. Here’s the tea—if you’re bending over backward to please people while ignoring what pleases Allah, you’re in for a rough ride. Why? Because people? They’re never satisfied. No matter how much you do for them, they’ll always want more. It’s like trying to fill a bottomless pit with snacks—it’s just not gonna happen.
Now, if you’re doing things solely to make people happy, guess what? You’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Not only will Allah be unhappy with you for prioritizing people over Him, but people themselves will eventually be displeased too. It’s a lose-lose situation.
On the flip side, if your goal is to please Allah, and you happen to displease people in the process, guess what? Allah will be pleased with you, and ironically, people might end up respecting you more. When you’re kind for the sake of Allah, you’re not seeking a gold star from everyone. You’re doing it because it’s the right thing to do, according to divine guidance.
People pleasers, on the other hand, are like walking billboards for “Look at me!” They crave constant praise and approval, and their actions are all about getting that next pat on the back. But kindness? It’s about doing good for Allah’s sake and expecting nothing in return. No strings attached, no hidden agendas. Just pure, unfiltered goodness.
So, if you’re stuck in the cycle of trying to make everyone happy, take a step back. Focus on what truly matters: pleasing Allah. Because when you get that right, everything else falls into place, even the approval of others.
Quranic Verses and Hadiths
“Whoever desires the life of this world and its adornments – We fully repay them for their deeds therein, and they therein will not be deprived. Those are the ones for whom there is nothing in the Hereafter but the Fire. And lost is what they did therein, and worthless is what they used to do.” (Quran 11:15-16)
This verse makes it crystal clear: if your deeds are done purely for worldly gains and the approval of others, then that’s all you get—temporary, fleeting rewards of this life. But when it comes to the Hereafter, those actions hold no value. The focus here is on your intentions. If you’re constantly chasing the approval of people, the lasting reward of the Hereafter slips away.
“And whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah and the Hereafter, He will bestow on them an immense reward.” (Quran 4:134)
This verse highlights the immense rewards that await those who seek Allah’s pleasure and the Hereafter. It’s a powerful reminder that our ultimate goal should be to please Allah, which leads to eternal rewards far greater than any temporary worldly gain.
The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “Actions are judged by intentions, so each man will have what he intended. Thus, he whose migration was to Allah and His Messenger, his migration is to Allah and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
So, if your deeds are just to look good, don’t expect much. But if you’re in it for Allah, the rewards are endless.
The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) also said: “Whoever seeks Allah’s pleasure by the people’s wrath, Allah will suffice him against the people. And whoever seeks the people’s pleasure by Allah’s wrath, Allah will leave him to the people.” (Tirmidhi)
Want to please everyone? Good luck with that. If you’re pleasing people at the expense of Allah, you’ll end up empty-handed. But focus on Allah, and you’ll find respect and support, often from unexpected places.
Being nice for approval is like chasing after a mirage. It’s temporary and ultimately unsatisfying. True kindness? It’s about sticking to Allah’s rules, regardless of what people think. So, next time you’re about to do something just to get likes or compliments, remember: real value comes from seeking Allah’s pleasure.
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